School nights are when all the kids that fuck my very old mother have to log off early, so I get to engage in venerable spray ‘n’ pray duels with formidable peers. For a couple hours, I am esteemed ‘average’.

A lot of people euphemistically use “school night” to mean work night.

I don’t have mortgage because I cannot afford it but I can afford grey hair.

Mostly paid off mortgages, in some cases

I’m a low end millennial and I’ve got both

This is because tech bros only read pop-psy without any regard for context or nuance. So they read a bit about Flow state and ranking for gamification, and as usual they just botched it. Most ranking is typically calibrated for engagement, not fun. Mind you, they are two different characteristics. If you graphed difficulty and skill, flow is a band, not a point, of difficulty, in the middle. The idea is that when you are challenged slightly over your skill, there is something in you brain that stimulates you to keep going under the promise that overcoming the challenge will be rewarding. Too high and people rage quit, too low and people get bored. The problem is that they want maximum engagement and for that the difficulty has to be on the higher end of the band. A frustrated person will return, a bored one most likely won’t.

They also want to keep people engaged with random and variable reinforcement. The other psychological theory that drives game design, much how behavioral scientist cheat pigeons to keep them engaged pulling a lever or pushing a button. Mix both theories poorly together and you get the awful implementation we see on multiplayer. People are tricked into believing that just because their brain chemicals are screaming at them to keep doing something, it means they are having fun. But that is obviously not true, just nobody ever occurred that those pigeons might be having a awful time. Ask most people on ranked MP or grinding for builds on MMOs if they are having fun and they have no idea why you’re asking them. It has nothing to do with fun, they just want the carrot being dangled in front of their nose.

I just don’t do online MP anymore because of this. 99% of the time, I’m not having fun. Now if I want to play with my friends or other people, we play tabletop board games. Infinitely more fun and far more satisfying than any online game ever.

There are still a lot of games that do this. Though you are right about the mainstream titles being burnout generators now.

That’s not my experience, and I’m an elder millennial. The only time tiering up has encouraged me to quit a game was when the higher ranked players were just more toxic. Being challenged can be part of the fun.

That’s not to say I think matchmaking is simply better than persistent servers. Having a group of regulars and developing a bit of a server culture is good fun. I guess I like both options depending on the mood.

I don’t have children.

I can’t beleive I’ve never noticed the subtitle pun before today

I feel ya. I played one of the CoD games online once back in the mid 00s and stopped gaming entirely for more than a decade. It seriously made me just lose all the love I had for games. I came back for Cyberpunk and it turns out that was a good time to get back into gaming.

that’s because co-op multiplayer >> competitive multiplayer