Tbh I love it, sometimes I feel like I identify with that label. but I’d also prefer that cis folks don’t call me that without my permission.

Like any term, highly dependent on context. The porn category / hentai connotation is pretty strong and I would feel really icky being called it out of the blue. But some friends of mine, mostly trans women, throw it around amongst ourselves and it can be amusing too. There is also the rare context, with a LOT of existing trust, where I do like the sexualized nature and view it as affirming. It’s not 100 percent appropriate or inappropriate in any context, but if you’re not sure probably don’t. Especially if you’re cis, pursuing someone, or on a public forum. It’s never a word ya need to use for someone.

I personally don’t have a problem with it used in the context of hentai, to me it seems distinct from trans as a concept/character trait/genre/however you want to phrase it. That said, it’s gross if you use it to refer to a person. I honestly have the same opinion with the 4 letter t word. I know others are bothered a lot more by these terms than I am, so I don’t use them in public online spaces, especially trans oriented ones, but still use them when talking about porn with people in porn contexts in private or in hentai oriented spaces. Not that they ever really come up in public conversation on a way that would make it context appropriate, only really conversations like this.

Again, to be clear, using these terms not just addressing real people but using them in a context implying trans people are those things is disgusting.

Idgaf unless someone calls me one or talks about it while hitting on me (yes I’ve had someone mention being into futa porn while hitting on me)

I really don’t like it. That’s a term that I’ve only ever seen associated with porn and sexualization, and I’d prefer not to be sexualized or objectified. I agree with you that I find it dehumanizing, and I really don’t like being fetishized. I feel like anyone that would use that term for me is either a chaser or a transphobe, and I don’t want to interact with either. And that’s without getting into the whole Japanese culture talk, which revolves around traditionalism, heteronormalcy, and misogyny that makes it extra uncomfortable.

I think it’s cringe. Gooners need to log off.

I don’t want to be called that, or see or hear anyone else be referred to as that. It’s a very gross and single minded way to refer to another human being, because it’s just the boiling down of a person into a porn category, kind of like the T slur.