I’m kind of surprised (yes, naively) that some people aren’t even aware enough of the wider culture to think twice about saying things like that.

I will not drink with you today.

I will not drink with you today.

I won’t drink with you today.

I won’t drink with you today.

Thank you. About professional support: yes and no. I’ve been a basket case my (39) entire life and finally saw a therapist intensively for “depression” age 29-35. I benefited a lot from him, but for some reason in all those years he never mentioned CPTSD, even though I was a classic case and would have benefited tremendously from that psychoeducation. I only learned about it a few years ago when desperately googling for explanations for my behavior. So the therapy session I have scheduled for next week will be the first one for CPTSD, and I plan to ask about IFS.

As for me and my wife, I’ll have to make her a companion only in the most general sense, because she is understandably done rescuing me (her words). I can be vulnerable with her, but not on this topic. And what makes it worse is that we live a pretty secluded life together. We’re both basically immigrants in the town we live in, we don’t really fit in, we’re far from our families, and we both have strong personalities that tend to repel as much as they attract. We are all we have, which makes my drinking even more of a betrayal :(

Maybe I’ll mention the seclusion to the therapist as well.

This is more about getting people followers than helping them find accounts to follow.