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The laziness thing resonates hard for me. When I am interested in something I can spend hours and hours learning everything about it and tinkering with it, when I am not interested it is incredibly challenging to muster the effort at all.
Deadlines and panic help, and if I can trigger my focus Ive been pretty successful with my efforts in general.
I still find myself doubting that I have ADD. Go figure.
I was told as a child that I didn’t have ADHD because I was able to sit quietly and read for long periods of time. I was only able to read for long periods if it was a fantasy novel. Now, in my 40s, my doctor was amazed I’d never been diagnosed as, according to them, I’m “textbook.”
Did “long periods of time” define itself as “it was daylight last i looked up from my book” hyperfocus? That’s what it was for me 😜
The “I just read a 500 page book in one sitting and now I feel empty inside, like a deflated balloon. I should maybe eat.” hyperfocus has always been my style.
Por que no los dos?
Leg cramps usually hit me if i don’t eat for long enough, doesn’t necessarily stop the hyperfocus tho
Also in my 40’s and recently diagnosed. I filled out a questionnaire, and the doc asked a few surface-level questions, then proceeded to describe my entire childhood-young adult life. He was not wrong on any detail.
I don’t even really like the term hyperactive. I was diagnosed at 6. I was told I was hyperactive, that I couldn’t pay attention. But nothing about why I stimmed, nothing about why my emotional state was unstable and I had trouble properly managing my emotions. Nothing about executive dysfunction, time blindness, hyperfixation, over and under stimulation, or the ways ADHD impacted my ability to socialize. Everyone wants to chalk ADHD up to one thing. But it isn’t. My peers at school wouldnt bully me because of being hyperactive but rather because of my failure to understand the nuances of social rituals no one explained to me. They would bully me because I stimmed especially when I did so verbally. I didn’t even know those things were related to my ADHD. I genuinely just believed there was something fundamentally wrong about me that I could never fix. Once I stopped taking Ritalin in grade six because my mom decided I didn’t need it anymore, I started to just receive constant ableist abuse from everyone in my life. I was always made to feel that it was my fault I was this way, my personal fault that I couldn’t do group projects or get homework or projects done. I’d score poorly on everything I did in school despite being smart and capable of learning well on my own. This was always made out to be a personal failing of my own, and not a direct consequence of my untreated ADHD combined with a system wholly unsympathetic to my experience.
ADHD is so misunderstood by neurotypical people. It’s wild talking to women who haven’t been diagnosed and describe in vivid detail all the forms of ableist abuse they’ve suffered their entire lives. Incredible being able to recognize the commonalities in our stories. Society is incredibly punishing for neurodivergent people. It is only around other neurodivergent people that I really feel able to be myself, to this day. I have helped several women get diagnosed purely by recommendation after becoming close friends with them. It’s wild how it feels like neurodivergent people subconsciously recognize each other.
I got diagnosed with laziness in school.
Many years later, another doctor looked at the diagnosis and said that the first doctor had written down textbook symptoms then missed the diagnosis.
The word lazy still hurts today.
I’ve embraced the word lazy. All my coworkers know that if I’m doing something a certain way, it’s because there’s no better way and it needs to get done. Anything else has been automated and optimized out.
I got diagnosed with laziness in school.
The word lazy still hurts today.
This was me growing up in the 80s. I wasn’t disruptive, and I aced the tests, so obviously I didn’t do the homework because I was “lazy.” Fuck that noise.
