Speak for yourself. It highly depends on what people you are talking to and the quality of those relationships. IDGAF about anybody at work and could go my entire life without speaking to them again.
I thought the same but over the years my perspective has changed. It’s not actually healthy to think like that about people you spend a third of your time with
I’m civil at work but once I leave the job odds are I will never speak to those people again. Coworkers are not friends, for the most part. There’s maybe a handful of people from previous jobs that I still talk to.
Doesn’t help the fact that we are faced with the threat of systemic violence if we do not maintain a job and are thus forced to spend a third of our time somewhere we don’t want to be in the first place.
Forced interaction will never be healthy interaction.
I get that science shows that most people need a certain baseline level of socialization to be happy and mentally well.
… but I think that assumes said interaction is … casual or friendly, in a third place, or with someone you trust, and doesn’t require or involve a monetary cost or gain as part of the interaction.
Thats getting to be near impossible to do on a regular basis in the US, certainly in person, even online or via phone as well.
Myself?
Autistic with CPTSD from being surrounded by narcissist hypocrite, various kinds of mentally unstable people my whole life, now finally far away from them.
Lemmy is about all the socializing I need, and I am so, so less stressed and baseline happy now that I no longer need to solve idiots problems for them, be constantly infantilized by people who are objectively less emotionally stable, worse at managing money, and usually less informed/intelligent than me.
Speak for yourself. It highly depends on what people you are talking to and the quality of those relationships. IDGAF about anybody at work and could go my entire life without speaking to them again.
I thought the same but over the years my perspective has changed. It’s not actually healthy to think like that about people you spend a third of your time with
I’m civil at work but once I leave the job odds are I will never speak to those people again. Coworkers are not friends, for the most part. There’s maybe a handful of people from previous jobs that I still talk to.
Doesn’t help the fact that we are faced with the threat of systemic violence if we do not maintain a job and are thus forced to spend a third of our time somewhere we don’t want to be in the first place.
Forced interaction will never be healthy interaction.
Yeah, that’s for sure. I’m a FIRE adherent so hopefully I am going to be able to choose where I spend my time soon and escape the broken system
Basically same.
I get that science shows that most people need a certain baseline level of socialization to be happy and mentally well.
… but I think that assumes said interaction is … casual or friendly, in a third place, or with someone you trust, and doesn’t require or involve a monetary cost or gain as part of the interaction.
Thats getting to be near impossible to do on a regular basis in the US, certainly in person, even online or via phone as well.
Myself?
Autistic with CPTSD from being surrounded by narcissist hypocrite, various kinds of mentally unstable people my whole life, now finally far away from them.
Lemmy is about all the socializing I need, and I am so, so less stressed and baseline happy now that I no longer need to solve idiots problems for them, be constantly infantilized by people who are objectively less emotionally stable, worse at managing money, and usually less informed/intelligent than me.