• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    Every time I see memes about hight I ask myself why are americans so fixated on that. It’s like this is the major thing american women look in a man. Never seen that anywhere else.

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      13 days ago

      It’s like this is the major thing american women look in a man.

      My sister did the Tindr circuit back in the ‘10s, and she regularly passed on anyone who was shorter than 6’. Some of this might have simply been that all the men and quite a few of the women in her family were at least that tall, but she capped out at 5’3".

      She struggled with dating for years, because a lot of the guys she went out with were either fuckbois or work-a-holics or otherwise unfun people to be around. Eventually, she got two requests in one day - one dude who was 6’1 and another who was 5’2". At this point, she was getting burnt out and felt a bit bad about not even giving the 5’2" a chance.

      The date with the 6’1" guy was predictably awful. She didn’t even bother suggesting another.

      The date with the 5’2" guy was incredibly. The immediately clicked. She totally fell for him. He fell for her. A couple years later they got married. Now they’ve got an adorable little girl and we’re all joking about how it would be funny of my sister’s tall-family genes take over and she’s towering over her parents in twenty years.

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      12 days ago

      If you’re not tall enough, you might not be able to see if there’s a gazelle or lion behind a large rock, thus you will neither be able to feed your family nor save it from being eaten.

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        11 days ago

        We were all mostly, like, 5 and a half feet tall up until a couple of hundred years ago. Height wasn’t a primary biological advantage for us. We weren’t prairie dogs.

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      13 days ago

      Brazil here. My ex wouldn’t date anyone shorter than 175cm and my current gf wouldn’t even look at me if i was under that height.

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      13 days ago

      I’ve never actually heard anyone say they cared about height. I’ve only heard second hand stories.

      Mostly saying, I think it’s a fairly small amount of people that care.

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        13 days ago

        It’s relatively common in dating apps here in Germany. I just see it as an immediate red flag and move on.

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        13 days ago

        Many of my American friends will not date someone shorter than themselves, I guess in part it’s social inertia because it’s just embarrassing more than unattractive

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        13 days ago

        Haven’t been on one in years, but women would put “guys over x height only” in their dating app profiles. I saw it as an advertisement that those particular women were very insecure and should probably be avoided, but it was a significant number of them nonetheless.

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        13 days ago

        Not true at all. Hugely important factor for women who are dating. You can literally look up the data on this, heigh is incredibly important for hetero women

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      12 days ago

      Is it women tho? Or is it men telling other men they aren’t good enough again?

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        11 days ago

        I’m short AF and I’ve definitely heard that from women but I also dated several women who were taller than me, one of whom by almost a foot. People have preferences and that’s just how it is. If someone isn’t attracted to you there’s not a lot to be done about it but move on and try someone else. It’s usually not a judgement on you as a person, there’s just no attraction there and as much as we would all like to pretend that doesn’t matter, it usually does. I don’t date women I’m not attracted to either so it goes both ways.