So ive put a lot of thot into this, and after going through what I did with my ex wife, I think it wouldn’t be a problem so long as
A. I know about it.
B. I get access to it and all paid content
C. No one else appears in it. This covers the whole “well that was an old video I uploaded” scenario too.
D. The relationship is otherwise secure.
E. But the real problem would be someone with an onlyfans wanting to date me.
It’s fine to not want to date someone with an onlyfans, but I feel like the guys who go out of their way to say it usually have other red flags about
Basically men who: —
Could never get a woman that hot
Get jealous easily
Don’t like women having agency over their sexuality
Don’t like women having agency over themselves full stop
Right I don’t see where you get the ability to mindread people nor guilt people into being in a relationship that they don’t want to be in.
I just ask that people realize what I realize, which is it’s an issue with ME that I’m not secure enough to be with a person who I can see having sex with someone else. I cannot control my feelings but I am responsible for them, or at the very least, other people are not responsible for them(at least in this example anyway it’s not as if the of model was having sex with other people AT me.)
It’s ok to be monogamous :)
Oh absolutely, I dont feel bad about that. But the feeling I get thinking about being with someone who does that kind of stuff is exactly a feeling of insecurity. It’s fine and normal, same way its normal to have a little anxiety or a little depression. In healthy doses it’s essentially just personality traits, but to me those feeling stem from insecurity. Perhaps it’s even innate and not something to be ‘fixed’ but it still feels like insecurity to me. But I’m realizing that I suppose I can only speak for myself here.
Except insecurity the word is used always as a pejorative.
It doesn’t have to. Same with anxiety, alone no one’s going to think the word itself is good, yet a healthy dose of anxiety is simply awareness.
It isn’t about what you think it should mean it matters how people use it.
I wouldn’t mind C, so long as it’s someone where all 3 of us are willing to have some fun together privately anyway
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C and E sound indicative of some insecurities.
Ah yes, be 100% ok with sharing your partner, or you’re insecure.
I said, “indicative of”, not, “yea you’re insecure”. Amazing how you children cannot parse basic perception from accusation.
I mean, I wouldn’t want to deal with the mental gymnastics involved with my significant other getting down with other people
An open relationship isn’t that weird of a concept to some. It’s about how much others mean to you, not how much of them you posess. People in these comments are fucking pathetic for not understanding this basic fact of healthy relationships: You do not own anyone else. To any degree. Period.
No ownership, but sharing time. I want to buy a house not a time-share. I want that deep emotional connection with someone. I don’t have the capacity to have more than one deep connection and would like someone similar. If my partner chooses they want something open, that’s fine, but we would transition to friends
Ha, C&E are actually relationship needs of mine, friend.
In fact, I think the others are more indicative of my insecurities, but hey, I’m not anxious-avoidant so I don’t know for sure.
If you’re dealing with the boundaries healthily, then it’s not so much an insecurity and more of a limitation. If others are aware and OK with it, I’d call that healthily dealt with. Whether or not the limitation is a problem is merely a matter of preference, and luckily it sounds like yours line up.
I love how everyone assumes “indicative of” is a direct accusation… As if false red flags based on perception do not exist. People are so small minded.
Im someone for whom C is a necessity like the person you’re responding too and I think you’re 100% right.
It may not be a nessesarily pathological insecurity, but it absolutely is an insecurity.
If I felt more secure I’d probably be able to deal with it. I don’t think that means im a necessarily insecure person, or am someone for whom insecurity is a clinical problem, but at least comparatively that makes it an insecurity.
You can get depressed and not have depression, you can get insecure and not be an insecure person, heck you can even maintain a healthy amount of anxiety. These are essentially just human traits and there’s no shame in admitting that I have a trait that’s at least a little rooted in insecurity so long as it doesn’t negatively impact my life.
A gal with a decent income!? Sign me up!
This is often assumed but most of the only fans adult content creators make very little. What if she makes very little but it just makes her feel sexy? I just want them to be happy in what they do.
The market is extremely saturated. I’m willing to bet most people could make more reliable money doing door dash
I can’t imagine most are making much money.
Honestly I wouldn’t care too much it’s the weirdos who would harass her that would make me not like it.
