sorry, what else would a reddit-clone full of reddit users be? I think a lot of people here are trying hard for this place to be reddit 🤷‍♀️

yes, and the second one as well - I like your style!

and are inline spoilers supported? seems like only block style spoilers afaik

yay pics!! I love that first one 😍

to be honest, the inability of “humanity” to overcome and prevent climate disasters and prioritize the well-being and longevity of humanity makes me skeptical we have such a long-term future, i.e. the future on a geologic scale is irrelevant to us as a species

over those timelines I’m not sure we can assume stability of ideas like planets and so on, sure - there might be some way of looking at this as a predictable system with overarching patterns that allow us to reasonably conclude some events are not possible past a certain point, but applying that specifically to a planet over a timeline like the heat death of the universe has problems like being too narrow in what is considered possible - I don’t know whether it’s genuinely impossible for some organism or natural event to intercede and create the conditions that bring about previously impossible geologic events again (you even consider this kind of possibility when suggesting Earth could survive the death of the Sun). The question seems somewhat broad and I’m not sure what you are really asking, to be honest.

This might be related to the empirical findings on the biological components of gender identity- it’s not just social, and this is part of why you can’t convert someone to be trans (or cis). Even if not essentialist, gender identity and gender dysphoria at least have biological components and not currently alterable or subject to social influence.

there seems to be some confusion, naming an epic after a major event doesn’t imply a similar event will never happen again in the future…

In the film there is a villain character named Buffalo Bill who murders young women and harvests their skin to make a woman suit they can wear to feel like a woman, presented as a sexual fetish (this is a debunked pseudoscience concept of “autogynephilia”). The character does this after being rejected by gender-affirming clinics for being mentally unstable and not being a “true transexual”.

There is a famous scene where Buffalo Bill has abducted a woman and keeps her in a well, and a basket with lotion is sent down and Buffalo Bill says a now famous line: “It rubs lotion on its skin, or else it gets the hose again.” This is a threat to get her to moisturize and take care of her skin, since that’s what is intended to be harvested from her.

There’s another iconic scene when Buffalo Bill is putting on makeup and jewelry and in the mirror saying “Would you fuck me? … I would fuck me. I would fuck me. I would fuck me so hard.” Then Buffalo Bill dances in front of a camera wearing the skin of women while dressed in women’s clothes.

This is perhaps one of the most impactful instances of transphobia in film, and served as an anchor in the 1990s for how people thought about trans women, as deranged psychopathic perverts (similar to how at the time all gay men were believed to be pedophile rapists).

There were even protests held against the film at the time.

Since OP’s post is about lotion and criminality, my assumption is that some Silence of the Lambs joke is inevitable, so I thought I’d get ahead of it.

EDIT: I missed that the top comment response was a Silence of the Lambs joke. Oops.

I’m sure a cock champion can be found on Tinder with minimal effort.

insightful

oof

something something transphobic Silence of the Lambs joke

You got it! It’s really an excellent video essay.

I’m just now starting to work through his other works, but everything he does is magic. Honestly the topic of “I Don’t Know James Rolfe” was basically as dull as the dictionary to me, but I enjoyed it anyway.

Currently working my way through his “Mantracks” video, which is so far about fossils and creationism.

just gently suggesting both can be true - he was problematic before the stroke, but the stroke could also be playing a role in what by all accounts seems to be a change in behavior and long-held policy positions which started after the stroke. Even Fetterman himself thinks the stroke is what was responsible for this change: https://newrepublic.com/post/182504/john-fetterman-abandon-progressives-bill-maher

right!? I don’t like complaining about pronoun circles too much because I understand they’re important for some folks, but I wish zealous liberals were a little more sensitive in their application.

Often times evading the pronoun question came across to people as transphobic and reactionary. I suspect this was also why so often in pronoun circles the facilitator clarified that an answer was required, which only made me (ironically usually the only trans person in the room) distressed and stigmatized.

Just making the question a little more optional could help people who need to disclose identity and pronouns to do so, and people who don’t mind identifying to do so, but still leave an escape hatch for the gender-distressed in the room 😅

not sure if you’re trans yourself, but in case this helps: as a trans person, when someone gets my pronouns wrong, it’s more important to me to know they aren’t doing it maliciously, so catching it and correcting yourself or just showing any kind of awareness or quick apology helps clarify in the situation that you aren’t trying to be malicious or denying my gender.

The intention matters more than the mistake is what I’m trying to say - the mistake itself is not a big deal when I’m visibly trans and I expect people to get it wrong, I just want to know if you’re safe to be around or not, basically.

Though I should say, once I was less visibly trans and cis-passing, a mispronouning can be devastating to me. Since it’s rare, when it does happen, it makes me think I’ve done something terribly wrong with my gender presentation or the way I am speaking - it feels dehumanizing and totally disturbing now.

But tbh, the mispronouning only happens now with people who knew me before I transitioned, and usually only when they have not spent much time around me since I transitioned. They mostly remember me as my pre-transition self. It’s habituated for them to refer to me as he/him regardless of my presentation, and when they look at me they are used to seeing a man, so they don’t see a woman but instead they notice all the markers of my maleness.

Meanwhile, cis strangers who have no history seeing me as a man don’t know to look for male markers, and what they see is a woman so they never notice the discrepancies and they never get the pronouns wrong.

Not all trans people have the same experiences, though - some are more disturbed by mispronouning regardless, so it’s important to understand the sensitivities or experiences of the individual. I just wanted to give you my perspective in case it helps.

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tbh I have these kinds of interactions all the time and often the person doesn’t even realize they made the mistake - I wouldn’t necessarily assume the immediate mispronouning was intentional - in this context it seems more likely they were not thinking rather than trying to openly defy or bully.

You have to remember, most people are not used to thinking about what pronouns they are using and it’s a mostly unconscious / automatic process based on quick judgements about a person’s gender. Even I find myself doing this when in trans spaces, when I’m taking my time speaking I can use the right pronouns, but when I get excited or otherwise start thinking and speaking too quickly, I fall back to those automatic and less conscious ways of using pronouns and end up mispronouning people. I do think practice helps incorporate pronoun awareness, over time it gets easier to use someone’s pronouns and to not make mistakes for example.

Not to say bullying isn’t a possibility - it definitely happens, and I’ve had moments where it felt like my colleagues at work were intentionally referring to me with the wrong pronoun and then correcting themselves with a kind of smirk. That just has a particular feel, though - it feels intentional. Much harder to know from an email like this, though, whether it is defiance or a slip of the mind.